Tip: Children in the Wedding
If
you are having children in the wedding as a ring bearer, flower
girl or maybe junior bride and groom, these tips may assist you
in making the day better for all.
At the rehearsal, appoint an adult to stay close to the children,
get down on their level and explain to them exactly what is happening
and what they will be doing at the wedding. Go over with them when
to walk down the aisle and where to stand; then let them practice
it a few times as needed.
Bring a goodie bag for them to keep busy while other things are
taking place at the rehearsal. Fill each bag with toys, candy, puzzles,
small computer or pinball games or maybe crayons and coloring book,
etc. Assign or hire someone to help keep them busy so they do not
get bored and misbehave.
At the rehearsal dinner, seat them with a family member or someone
you have hired to be at their own table so everyone can enjoy the
evening. They can leave early with them to take them up to the room
or back home so they can go to bed at the appropriate time and they
will be well rested for the big day.
On
the day of the wedding:
If you are having a receiving line, decide if you want the children
to be in it--some can handle it--some cannot.
Ask the photographer and videographer to do the photos and videotaping
of the children with the bride and groom and the wedding party first
to avoid restlessness and temper tantrums.
Choose flowers that will not wilt or discolor if the child tugs
at it all day.
Even hair ornaments or floral headpieces for the young girls should
be sturdy and comfortable.
Don't force a child to sit still or smile--children can add a wonderful
dimension to a wedding because of their spontaneity and who-knows-what-will-happen-next
quality.
Some sanctuaries have age restrictions for children participating
in the ceremony--know what they are.
Don't be surprised after the beautiful dress and tuxedo rental,
if the child does not want to participate. Do not force them--this
could be very tramatic for them.
Go with the flow, expect anything and you will have the best time
of all!
Remember to Enjoy! Enjoy! Enjoy! And, stay Organized!
