Tip: The date has been set; the attendants selected; then
the question—What does the Mother of the Groom do? I know we
can all ask that question, whatever our role tends to be. But, the
Mother of the Groom has to be careful not to take over and not appear
to be uninterested. It can sometimes be a very difficult place to
be. You want to always keep communications open and honest.
First,
it is the place of the groom's family to invite the bride's parents
over to get acquainted.
Second, you can tell your son and his bride-to-be that you are
willing to help and would love to be kept in the loop as they make
plans.
Third, on your own, you can start by getting your guest list in
order.
Fourth, also, you can check with the bride's mother to see what
she plans to wear. Then select your outfit accordingly.
If you have family and friends you would like to meet the bride
and her family, you may be the one to host an engagement party for
all to get acquainted.
Most of all, take some time to think about the expenses traditionally
paid by the groom's family; which ones do you feel you can take
on? The list of these expenses ranges from buying corsages and boutonnieres
for the groom's attendants and immediate family members to planning
and paying for the rehearsal dinner. In some cases, the groom's
family also hosts a post-wedding reception in their hometown--particularly
when the wedding is small and they'd like friends to meet their
new daughter-in-law. It is fun to think about how you can be a real
part of things as expenses for weddings today are alot more costly
than they were years ago. You really need more input from both sets
of parents as well as the bride and groom.
Maybe you can see that the bride and groom have a wonderful honeymoon
as your gift to them.
Whatever you come up with, please keep in mind that the bride and
groom have waited a long time for their special day and everything
should be done with their best interest at heart.
I know it will be a wonderful day and you will beam proudly as
your son moves onto his next role in his life.
Meanwhile, have fun and, of course,
Stay Organized!
