Tip: And now the Ring Bearer. Having children in the wedding
party can really liven up your wedding; it can also do the opposite.
Be careful in your choices of children and watching their age will
make a difference.
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Whatever happens, never force the child to go down the aisle. I
have seen this done and it is not a happy time for anyone. Just
remember, they will look great in those photos.
Now we're ready for the Ring Bearer.
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He is usually between the ages of four and eight
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Attends the Rehearsal to practice his role, but
is not required to attend pre-wedding parties
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Arrives dressed at ceremony site 45 minutes before
the wedding for photographs
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Carries a white/ivory pillow with artificial rings
attached (I would not recommend putting real rings on the pillow—see
below)
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Follows maid/matron of honor and precedes flower
girl or bride during the processional
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Stands behind best man during the ceremony, facing
the officiant
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If he is very young, he may sit with his parents
during the cermony
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After the ceremony, carries the ring pillow upside
down so artificial rings will not show
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Walks beside flower girl, to her left, immediately
following bride and groom during the recessional
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Sits with his parents during the reception
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His parents pay for his wedding day attire
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He must be available for fittings and alterations
during the week of the event
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His parents pay for any travel expenses, if necessary
I want to talk briefly about the rings on the pillow. You do not
need to put any rings on the pillow at all. It is just a symbol
for the Ring Bearer to be participating in this event. If you have
the real rings on the pillow, I have seen the ribbon knot up and
they cannot get the rings off.
Also, I have heard when the rings fall off and everyone is scrambling
to find them on the floor. So, let's not give it a chance to add
anxiety to your day.
Remember to pick the right person to fill the very special role.
I know all will go well
Have Fun and Stay Organized!!
