Tip: Who will marry us? This is a very important question.
Finding someone to fit your personality is usally the best way
to go. Someone with your religious beliefs if you require that.
Pastors, priests, rabbis, judges, ships captain, elected officials
and church-affiliated people may perform your marriage ceremony.
You can also have a friend or relative act as your clergyperson
for the day--they just need to go to courthouse and be sworn
in for the day--it requires a small fee.
Fees
for performing your ceremony can vary widely--so ask ahead!
Find out what it includes. Some are for ceremony only. Is a
rehearsal included? Do they do the rehearsal or does someone
else? What are the extra charges for the rehearsal if not included?
What is your time frame on the rehearsal?
Some may require counseling. Is that included? How many sessions?
What are the fees if not included?
Will they let you write your own vows? Are there any restrictions?
How much time will they allow for your ceremony?
Are their other hidden charges? What about travelling distances?
Are there extra charges for that?
Ask how many weddings they will perform on your wedding day?
It may make a difference on the time alloted for your ceremony
if they end up running late. The opposite can occur, also. They
may need to leave in a hurry if they have somewhere else to
go.
Find out what type of clothing they will wear. Some will wear
a suit or a robe. Tuxedos are sometimes required or a ministers
collar. Be specific so you are not disappointed.
Ask how long their normal ceremony will be. Also, it will
be important to ask their feelings on photography and video.
Where will they be able to stand and can they move around during
the ceremony.
Do they handle the marriage license or do you need to get
that on your own?
If you would feel better, you may want to ask for referrals.
Some may have videos to show you of the different types of ceremonies.
If all these things are settled ahead of time, you should
have no worries.
As always, be happy.
